Please try to have this conversation
- Face to Face
- At a time when both of you are relaxed.
Chats do not work
Texts do not work
Long face book comments do not work
(This is becuase 93% of human communications are non verbal)
Is to Unite The USA
I usually start by stating that I have a couple of facts to share. Here are the facts
You love the United State of America
I love the United State of America
Powerful forces are trying to divide us
If we are to save our Beloved Country, we need to put aside our political ideologies and WE NEED TO UNITE ...
Fact # 2
I cannot change you
You cannot change me
But, You can change your self
We are born with certain traits.These traits lead us to have either a "Caregiver" or a "Warrior" outlook in life.
These same traits are seen all over the world - in the US, The Middle East, Asia and in Africa.
Prof Jonathan Haidt, a Social Psychologist has done a lot of studies on this (see a link to his Ted Talk in the reference section)
According to Prof Haidt, we are born with a basic set of values.
Warriors seem to emphasize five Values :
Caregivers seem to Emphasize Five Values :
This has been the moral truth for centuries.
Each individual looks at life through their own set of values.
And each individual ALWAYS thinks that THEY are right and the other person is wrong - that is our default.
Just now there are a lot of forces that are dividing us
These organizations have succeeded in defining folks with a different ideology as 'THE ENEMY'
And they are using a basic Clinical Psychological concept call "Cognitive Desonance"
Scientist have found that the part of the brain that is most active during this time is NOT the "reasoning" part but the 'fight or flight' part of the brain
That is why most of these conversations end up real quickly in arguments and heated fights ...
Now that you understand why this is happening to us, let us do something to reverse this.
And Unite the United State of America and the world ...
The Plan ...
# 1 - Please shut down the TV for two weeks. Stop reading blogs, emails and listening to any Radio program that are trying to divide us. This will give you a reprieve and clear your mind.
#2 - Know who you are. Know what your ideology is. Then realize and accept that your perception of a problem may be different from the perception of another individual.
# 3 - Spend some time thinking about this.
Remember - the "facts" you may believe in may not be the "whole truth"
There may be additional facts that you have not heard.
#4 - Learn the art of "Active Listening"
#5 - Please Click here for our Face Book page to take the Pledge today
Actively Listen to Everyone
#6 - Please share this with everyone you know.
And keep the conversation going.
Yes it is an uphill battle.
But we CAN win this battle if we all Unite...
Now let us spend time finding solutions to our problems TOGETHER ...
Now you are ready
Start to talk to one another
First identify the problem - different folks will frame the problem differently
Remember to actively Listen during this process
Then write down all the solutions
Choose the best solution using ALL political ideologies
That is how we will be able to #Unite The USA
1. Ted Talk by Prof Jonathan Haidt
2. Most human communications are non verbal
3. Why facebook arguments are useless