The Conversation #UnitingTheUSA

Dear friends
Please try to have this conversation 

• Face to Face
• At a time when both of you are relaxed.

Chats do not work
Texts do not work
Long face book comments do not work
(This is becuase 93% of human communications are non verbal)


Our Goal
Is to Unite The USA


I usually start by stating that I have a couple of facts to share.  Here are the facts


Fact #1
You love the United State of America
I love the United State of America

Powerful forces are trying to divide us

If we are to save our Beloved Country, we need to put aside our political ideologies and WE NEED TO UNITE ...

Fact # 2
I cannot change you
You cannot change me
But, You can change your self 

Fact #3

We are born with certain traits.

These traits lead us to have either a "Caregiver" or a "Warrior" outlook in life.

These same traits are seen all over the world - in the US, The Middle East, Asia and in Africa.

Prof Jonathan Haidt, a Social Psychologist has done a lot of studies on this (see a link to his Ted Talk in the reference section)

According to Prof Haidt, we are born with a basic set of values.

Warriors seem to emphasize five Values :

• Avoid Harm and Protect the weak 
• Be Fair
• Respect Authority - this is a good trait as long as the folks in a position of Authority are good people.  Otherwise Warriors can be mislead by a person they respect.
• Group Loyalty - This may lead a person to abandon right and wrong in order to safe guard the interest of the group
• Purity 

Caregivers seem to Emphasize Six Values :

• Avoid Harm and Protect the weak  
• Be fair
• Instead of authority, they believe in equal power - Since they do not like leaders, they may fail as a team
• Instead of Group Loyalty, they are willing to invite others in 
• Empathy - This makes it easier to mislead Caregivers
• Purity 

This has been the moral truth for centuries.

Each individual looks at life through their own set of values.
And each individual ALWAYS thinks that THEY are right and the other person is wrong - that is our default.

Fact #4

Just now there are a lot of forces that are dividing us

These organizations have succeeded in defining folks with a different ideology as 'THE ENEMY'

And they are using a basic Clinical Psychological concept call "Cognitive Desonance"

Scientist have found that the part of the brain that is most active during this time is NOT the "reasoning" part but the 'fight or flight' part of the brain

That is why most of these conversations end up real quickly in arguments and heated fights ...

Now that you understand why this is happening to us, let us do something to reverse this.

And Unite the United State of America and the world  ...

The Plan ...  

# 1  -   Please shut down the TV for two weeks.  Stop reading blogs, emails and listening to any Radio program that are trying to divide us.   This will give you a reprieve and clear your mind.

#2  -  Know who you are.  Know what your ideology is.  Then realize and accept that your perception of a problem may be different from the perception of another individual.

# 3 -  Spend some time thinking about this.

Remember - the "facts"  you may believe in may not be the "whole truth"

There may be additional facts that you have not heard.

#4 -  Learn the art of "Active Listening"

#5 - Please click here to join our Face Book group

Please Click here for our Face Book page to take the Pledge today

Pledge to
Respect Everyone

Love Everyone

Actively Listen to Everyone 

Or if you do not have a face book page please Click here to take the pledge


#6 - Please share this with everyone you know.  
And keep the conversation going. 
Yes it is an uphill battle.  
But we CAN win this battle if we all Unite...

Now let us spend time finding solutions to our problems TOGETHER ...

Now you are ready 

Start to talk to one another

First identify the problem - different folks will frame the problem differently

Remember to actively Listen during this process

Then write down all the solutions

Choose the best solution using ALL political ideologies

That is how we will be able to #Unite The USA

References :

1. Ted Talk by Prof Jonathan Haidt

http://www.ted.com/talks/jonathan_haidt_on_the_moral_mind.html

2. Most human communications are non verbal

http://www.nonverbalgroup.com/2011/08/how-much-of-communication-is-really-nonverbal/

3.  Why facebook arguments are useless

https://youtu.be/Qe5pv4khM-Y

There is a better way

Long ago doctors used Penicillin to treat Pneumonia
Now most bacteria are resistant to Penicillin - So most doctors have stopped using Penicillin to treat pneumonia. They use other Antibiotics.

When it comes to implementing and enacting Public Policies the ground game has changed.

So, why are we using the same OLD tactics to get things done ?
Obviously we are not going to "win" the game.
 - That is like using Penicillin for Pneumonia - The patient will die :(

So how can WE THE PEOPLE get the politicians to listen to us ?

Let us look at the facts on the ground (I know these facts are NOT FAIR - But we have to remember that these ARE the facts.

• 95% of the time the person who wins an election is the person who has the most money.
• And only 0.01% of us have the kind of money the Politicians want.
• Therefore Politicians are forced to hob nob with the 0.01% and make them and the multinational Corporations happy.  Otherwise THEY are going to loose THEIR job.
• Do not believe me ?  Please click here to see the daily change in net worth on the top 100 Billionaires on bloomberg.com  (For example on the 27th of February, Mr Koch's net wealth increased by 50 million in one day and Ms Walton's net wealth increased by 46 million in one day)

Even the so called SMALL Political PACS that we have  DO NOT have the kind of money the Politicians need.  So the politicians will "listen" to these small PACs ONLY IF the policy is okay with the 0.01% of us who are very rich and the large multinational Corporations.

Conclusion - Money IS NO LONGER our Strength


And those $5 to $500 donations - think about what happens to them - they will be used to buy advertisements in the Main Stream Media - currently owned by 5 Large Corporations.  So basically YOU made these large Corporations and their owners richer.  And YOU lost the $5 that you need to buy food for your family :(

So WHAT IS OUR STRENGTH ?

Our strength lies in NUMBERS

That may be why there is a constant attempt by some to divide us

Conservatives vs Liberal

Muslims vs Christians

Male workers vs Female workers

Pro choice vs Pro life

Union workers vs Non Union workers  etc etc etc

For the first time in the US we have been brainwashed into thinking that a person with a different ideology is "OUR ENEMY" 

Not a fellow American with a different point of view

We in turn play in to this theme by demonizing folks that have a different point of view.  And this theme gets reinforced.

We HAVE TO CHANGE this division NOW

As medical doctors I believe that this is the biggest Public Health problem we face today.

So what can we do ?
We need to do everything in our power to Unite the USA.

I strongly believe that we should use the resources of our small political PACS for this purpose. 

Trying to support individual Politicians by giving them money is NOT going to get us any where.

Please will you join me ?

Please click here to learn the 6 steps that you could take to have this conversation.

Yes it is an uphill battle

But it is a battle we can win

We have to have this conversation with one person at a time

Together we can create a ground swell that will be hard to defeat

And that my friends is the only way we will win this battle ...

Thank you